TIPS FOR TODAY:
# 1 – This is a fairly long read, but interesting, insightful article by Marshall Goldsmith about giving “feedforward,” instead of feedback. Something possibly every counselor, coach, teacher, business owner, parent….really just about anyone….should read….
Providing feedback has long been considered to be an essential skill for leaders. As they strive to achieve the goals of the organization, employees need to know how they are doing. They need to know if their performance is in line with what their leaders expect. They need to learn what they have done well and what they need to change. Traditionally, this information has been communicated in the form of “downward feedback” from leaders to their employees. Just as employees need feedback from leaders, leaders can benefit from feedback from their employees. Employees can provide useful input on the effectiveness of procedures and processes and as well as input to managers on their leadership effectiveness. This “upward feedback” has become increasingly common with the advent of 360 degree multi-rater assessments.
But there is a fundamental problem with all types of feedback: it focuses on the past, on what has already occurred—not on the infinite variety of opportunities that can happen in the future. As such, feedback can be limited and static, as opposed to expansive and dynamic.
Over the past several years, I have observed more than thirty thousand leaders as they participated in a fascinating experiential exercise. In the exercise, participants are each asked to play two roles. In one role, they are asked provide feedforward —that is, to give someone else suggestions for the future and help as much as they can. In the second role, they are asked to accept feedforward—that is, to listen to the suggestions for the future and learn as much as they can. The exercise typically lasts for 10-15 minutes, and the average participant has 6-7 dialogue sessions.
Read the rest of the article and why feedforward generally works so much better than feedback: http://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/articles/try-feedforward-instead-feedback/
# 2 – A lovely picture and text from my blogging buddy Sarah Hughes, who has a big heart, immense love for Nature, and a real eye with the camera. You may want to check out her A Wildflower’s Melody posts whenever you need a bright spot in your day….
When I count my blessings,
One of them is you.
May joy light your way,
And love fill your heart.
# 3 – Oh, I absolutely love this that was part of a newsletter from Rob Brezsny….
May a good vision catch me
May a benevolent vision take hold of me, and move me
May a deep and full vision come over me, and burst open around me
May a luminous vision inform me, enfold me.
May I awaken into the story that surrounds,
May I awaken into the beautiful story.
May the wondrous story find me;
May the wildness that makes beauty arise between two lovers
arise beautifully between my body and the body of this land,
between my flesh and the flesh of this earth,
here and now,
on this day,
May I taste something sacred.
# 4 – Wonderful image and text…..
With life as short as a half taken breath,
don’t plant anything but Love. ~ Rumi
Image : Suvi Ylikojola
# 5 – Regardless of who you voted for in the presidential election or how you feel about the results, I think this message I got from James Tyman is something everyone can benefit from…….
Don’t get me wrong…this is not the outcome I was hoping from. But that’s not the point, is it? My happiness does not depend on anything happening out there but rather, within my own heart. That’s where the miracle unfolds, and if we’re willing to accept everything, no matter how far it is from what we wanted to happen, then happiness becomes a constant state. I AM Happy NO MATTER WHAT.
I spent the morning praying for Donald Trump, not cursing him. Yes, of course I was shocked and dismayed, but several days ago I asked thousands of people to pray for the “highest good” to be done in this election. Part of that involves me letting go of what I think needs to happen and trusting what actually is happening. It’s impossible for me to know what humanity needs to evolve into love, but I am willing to play my role NO MATTER WHAT. That’s the key – to commit to love regardless of the direction we seem to be heading.
I invite you to join me in this brave new life. A friend of mine used to say: “Ask for what you want, accept what you get, and work on the difference.” I did not vote for Donald Trump, but that doesn’t mean I have to fall into despair. You are needed more than ever now! If you feel sad or disheartened, that’s okay, but do what you have to do to move through those feelings back into love. That’s the only place the real work can be done. — James Twyman
# 6 – This free masterclass w/ Jeffrey Allan is only going to be available thru Monday. I highly recommend signing up for it. Have taken his Duality training and it was some of the best money I’ve ever spent. This free class he’s offering now is a lead-in to his new course on Unlocking Transcendence and talks about using your inner compass to navigate the energy world in a way that guarantees success in the physical world . Cool! You can find out more here.
# 7 – And a gentle reminder from Abraham…..
You don’t have to work at being in the high vibration that is natural to you, because it is natural to you. But you do have to stop holding the thoughts that cause you to lower your vibration. It’s a matter of no longer giving your attention to things that don’t allow your cork to float or don’t allow you to vibrate in harmony with who you really are.–Abraham